It is easy to find faults in a person. What is hard is, looking at his bright side. I feel as we grow old, our tolerance level decreases and we become more adamant and stubborn. We end up forming opinions quickly and do not change them. It becomes hard to accept people , accept people with their faults. Otherwise, how else would you explain the fights, the grudges, the distance that increase between people as they grow old!!!!
The virtue of forgiving or rather letting it go dwindles with time. Small fights lead to a big drift between two friends. Some harsh words offends the self esteem of the other, and we end up complaining “How could he/she????”
It would have been easy if the question turns to “Why did he/she???” . What rises with age is the selfishness, over estimating one self and judging other people.
We end up judging people on every single act and try and analyze them. We stop sharing, stop talking. The small faults become so visible that the goodness of the person is lost. And the relation reaches to a point of a mere acquaintance.
I agree , when you know a person for a long time , it is easy to find faults, but why not remember , it is the same person who was the world to you at some point of time. Everywhere I see people fallen out of love, people fallen out of friendship. The ego that comes with the power, the self-independence makes us intolerant. In the mundane routine of life friends are lost, we loose touch. There are things un-approved , questions unasked, feelings un-shared. Instead of letting small things sour the perfect bond of friendship why not keep away the ego and ask questions.
Retrospect, and for once look at the positive side. The bonds that were made years ago, the emotions shared at every single step will not be washed away. They have just accumulated some dust, and it is upon us if we want to make them shine or let them remain …. Untouched..UNSAID….
Life is too short to be spent in fault finding!!!!!
Song for now….
Rooth na jana tumse kahu to..
Mein in lehron mein jo bahu to..
Tum yeh mano ya na mano…
Mere jaisa deewana tum paoge nahi…